A Mother Writes A Poem About Her Sleeping Husband Instead Of Helping Her Take Care Of The Baby


It is well known, the first months of a baby shorten the nights of his parents in a considerable way. Indeed, a good day-to-day organization is crucial in order to spread the workload between them, especially when there is only one who wakes up at night. To change things, a mother tired of being the only one to get up to breastfeed her son, decides to write a text to her sleeping husband instead of helping her take care of the baby.


Often, it is the mothers who take on the cloak of super-warriors juggling work, baths, shopping, baby bottles, and other care related to their baby. Although fathers are increasingly involved in day-to-day tasks, responsibilities for children are still mostly taken on by mothers, which can lead to extreme fatigue.


Mothers dedicate more time to children every day
The SOS of tired moms are multiplying on the online forums, and for good reason, they would be more responsible than their husband of the child care. According to a study conducted by DARES (Directorate of Animation, Research, Studies, and Statistics), a survey conducted on biactive couples working from Monday to Friday would have shown that in 6 out of 10 cases, moms are spending more time with their kids. According to this report, they would grant an average of 75% of their time to their children against less than 60% for fathers.

On the other hand, mothers would spend an average of 2 hours 25 hours a day, alone with their young children, but "less than one in two fathers will keep their child alone for more than one hour a week (12 minutes a day). ". According to this survey, this could be explained by the nature and work schedule of each person (work at home, part time, day / night).

Moreover, a second survey examined by this report also reported that "mothers represent more than 90% of parents on parental leave (...), with fathers having a subsidiary role in parental tasks". According to the DARES investigators, "cultural barriers probably play a significant role in men's very moderate use of working time arrangements".



Hours of sleep less
The fatigue that comes with the birth of a baby is far from being an exaggeration. A study published by The Sleep Research Society confirms that parents' sleep is disrupted during the first 6 years of the child. Led on 4700 people (men and women) over a period of 7 years, this survey reveals that the quality of sleep diminishes especially during the first year, and more particularly the first three months. According to the data collected, mothers would lose about an hour of sleep during this period compared to thirteen minutes only for fathers.

Given these numbers, it is easy to understand the frustration of mothers. Indeed, lack of sleep has consequences in everyday life, especially at the emotional level. As Psychology Today explains, emotions experienced after fatigue can be contagious and rub off on the child in seconds. This applies to happy feelings but also to sadness, fear and anger, hence the need for a more egalitarian distribution of roles after birth.



A poet mum
Caroline Olling Anderson, a mother recently, decides to use a very creative way to evacuate her frustration with her husband who never wakes up at night to take care of the baby: she writes him a poem.

Relayed by our fellow Indy100 INDEPENDENT this hilarious text will generate thousands of reactions with nearly 16,000 shares and 12,000 mentions "I like" on networks. Here is an excerpt:

After all, without daddy, I wouldn’t have you.But from midnight till sunrise, it’s just you and I.And as each hour passes, I’m not gonna lie:Mommy’s love slowly fades, becomes angry and weak,Because no matter what, your dad is f***ing asleep!
And it just got better. 
It all starts out lovely. We kiss each other goodnight.We look lovingly down at you dear, such a beautiful sight.An hour later, mommy wakes with a start.You’re twisting and turning, you’re starting to fart.You’re gesturing for food. Mommy is there with a bottle or breastDaddy is snoring away, the way he knows best.Mommy burps you, and holds you and rocks you with care.You spew foul smelling yogurt on mommy’s freshly washed hair.As mommy changes her shirt, and mops vomit off the floor.Your daddy farts, rolls over and continues to snore.Mommy’s maternal alarm goes off, it’s not even three!You’re stirring again, you’re hungry and staring at me!
“I think she is hungry” your daddy offers, pulls duvet over his head,Mommy sends him a death stare and rolls out of bed.Mommy comes back, tired and drained and what is this I see?Your daddy has taken over my side, doesn’t give a f*** about me!
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