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What A Mother Really Means When She Says 'I am Tired'


The mind and the human body have well-defined limits, and the trials of life can sometimes push us to want to surpass them. Moreover, it is for this reason that in difficult times, we need the support of others, especially those who understand our suffering, as shown by the story of these two women ...

What A Mother Really Means When She Says 'I'm Tired'

A story that shows how a mother can be so exhausted

She looked tired, overwhelmed, overwhelmed but mostly exhausted.

Of course she was. She had four children who all seemed to be under 10 years old, the youngest being a newborn baby crying in her arms. He obviously did not want to travel to the grocery store.

Carrying her in her arms in a rather nonchalant way, she seemed not to have slept in years. For my part, I had the chance to do the shopping without my children accompany me because mine were much older and I finally took advantage of the fact that they grew up. I approached this tired mother and told her, "It's a beautiful family you have here! You did well to come here with your children and your little baby. "

She paused a few seconds as if she held back her tears and blinked while diverting them. I knew she was restraining herself from saying everything she really thought and that she was going to say the only sentence a mother uses every day. She just looked at me and said, "I'm tired."

I knew exactly what she meant by that because it did not just mean she was tired of not sleeping at night. That meant she was down, tired and overworked in every area of her life.

The true meaning of maternal fatigue

You see, when mothers say "I'm tired" to their spouses, friends, strangers, neighbors, doctors, and their own mothers, there is a much heavier sense behind that sentence.

- "I'm tired" means that being solely responsible for children day after day can be completely demoralizing.

- "I'm tired" means there are times when I think I can not do that for a second more.

- "I'm tired" means I never thought it would be so hard.

- "I'm tired" means not only that I do not sleep at the moment, but that I do not know when I will do it again.

- "I'm tired" means that if I have to remove the crusts from a sandwich one more time, I could cut off my hand.

- "I'm tired" means I do not want to make love. Not because I do not like doing it or because I do not like my husband, but because my mind can not find rest.

- "I am tired" means that I am in mourning for my body, my attitude, my personality, my free time, my loneliness and many other things that are no longer part of my new life and to which I have to adapt day after day.

- "I'm tired" means that I do not want you to tell me I'm going to miss this nursery time. Although that may be true, I do not want to hear that now. It will not help me.

- "I am tired" means that I wonder if I will feel fit again or if this state of exhaustion will be eternal.

- "I'm tired" simply means "I can not stand it anymore". I can not lead a normal life because I am a mother, one who does everything for others and forgets herself.

Female solidarity among mothers

I then gave a gentle pat on the shoulder of this exhausted mother. I did not tell her that things would be better or that she was privileged to have children. Instead, I looked straight at her, smiled softly, and said, "I understand." She then smiled back.

Sometimes the only thing we need is to know that we are not the only ones who are tired.

This shows how far the feminine solidarity between mothers can offer a great deal of comfort, be it physically, emotionally or mentally. So, let's make sure that "I'm tired" is only temporary or better, that it's rare.
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